i hate what we’ve done to sex.

chriztophe:

we’ve made it scary.. and too over-thought. and i’m not saying you should just fuck everyone all the time.. but i think we’ve involved more people into our sex-lives ..or more specifically our sex-decisions..than we should.

if you’re gonna do drugs.. or drink.. or be straightedge, or vegan,  or join the army or join a band.. or whatever… you don’t care what your parents or friends say.. you do those things because internally you’ve decided you want/need to…and i think those are things that are far more definitive of who/what you are. It’s astonishing to me that people take those views and stances with little hesitation, they subscribe to them, and that’s that. no debate. I’m not saying that’s wrong.. I’m say that’s EXACTLY how all of you personal decisions should be made.  

if sex is something you think about a lot, and you want it to be saved for one person, that’s fuckin awesome. i just think we’ve (as an american society) let others dictate our view on sex, and physical relationships way too much. 

I like dates, I like long conversations, and I like being physical as well…whether that means holding hands, or kissing, or having sex. I don’t think any of those things need to necessarily mean anything more than that both people were compelled to participate in the act at the time. I do however realize how much greater each of things are when shared with someone who also shares feelings with you. I’d like to stress how, personally, I always find all of these more enjoyable during a relationship, as opposed to stemming from isolated incidents.

I don’t think that guys or girls have any more of a right to satisfy that physical need. I don’t think it’s fair to give anyone more of a societal pass to go out and get some. I think that sluttiness is terrible.. but i define sluttiness as having sex without self consent.
I think a lot of people of any gender put themselves out there physically, when they don’t want to at all, and that bums me out.  it’s the only sex that I view as degrading. You can have sex with 50 people today.. as long as you want to and you’re safe, I honestly don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. but if you have sex with one person today and it’s only because you think you’ll get them to like you.. or because you just think you can get them to “put out”, i think that’s horrid.

People always say that sex complicates things. 
I think sex only complicates, what’s already complicated. 
if you’re being physical with someone and one of you isn’t being honest about how you’re feeling emotionally then you have a complicated issue. We shouldn’t blame the sex for the issue, the sex is just usually the means by which the issue comes out.  I’ve been on both sides of that scenario, neither is better than the other. no one wins, and in some cases it feels like the sex retro-actively loses any positive value.  I’d argue that all of this applies whether it’s actual sex or even so much as kissing. 

Biologically speaking, the purpose of our existence is simply to procreate. so our bodies are going to tell us to get it on. of course, we have sex for fun as well, so that comes into play, and as humans we are highly aware of our emotions, and our sexual decisions should be made by consulting ourselves emotionally and physically, before we even consider taking queues from our societies. 

I think if a girl wants to fuck someone.. she should fuck whatever chick, or dude she’s into.
I think if a dude can get someone to go anywhere near that penis of his, he should go for it.

3 months ago  /  17 notes  /  Source: chriztophe